Online book club: Difficult Conversations (Stone, Patton, Heen)
The meeting for the third chapter of the 101s Difficult Conversations book club. Additions still welcome until the 4th chapter meeting.
What is this?
We invite you to an online book club for the book Difficult Conversations!
What is a book club?
At its core, a book club is a group of people who read the same book more or less at the same time, then meet to discuss it. But it can have more components. For example, people can meet to actually read together, there can be a focus on building community, doing other related activities, or even co-producing material related to the book (say, reviews, or fan fiction, etc.)
Who are we?
Mihai and Tiffany started the 101s project after working with pods and other transformative justice tools and processes in a Barcelona-based community. Mihai has experience with facilitation, activism and event organisation, while Tiffany has taught, inspired and helped many people grow in their relationships and communities. Check them out here.
How will it work?
Meetings: We meet online, through a videoconferencing platform, every two weeks on Tuesday evenings. We have ten meetings, one per chapter. In each meeting, Mihai or Tiffany from the 101s facilitate and moderate a discussion of the current chapter. We also take notes, and they are shared with everyone after the meeting.
Group: Mihai and Tiffany prepare and moderate a group of all the readers. There, we can discuss the topics in the book, share meeting notes, relevant links and references, send out reminders of meetings, and, most importantly, get to know each other and create connections.
Who is this for?
We are keen to read this book with:
- moderators, administrators, facilitators, managers, team or project leaders, or other group- and community-builders.
- anyone who is a member of an organisation, team, collective, or family and wants to learn to show up in a better way, for themselves and the others
- all of you who are interested in improving your communication skills for the most difficult conversations with family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, or others with whom you cross paths.
And we'd love to extend a special invitation to those of us who tend to be underrepresented or marginalised: those older or younger, those who are not white, cis, or straight, who are working class / precarious, diversely functional, those who are caregivers, and other underrepresented intersections. We strive to create safer spaces for welcoming us in all our diversity.
Why did we choose this book?
We think that the skills required to have better important conversations are at the core of what we hope to teach and learn together. As long as we are humans, we probably can't have communities without friction, activists without misalignments, teams without conflict, groups without transgression, families without fights, and societies without strife and contention. The better we get at having the important difficult conversations, the more peaceful we can learn to coexist and inter-depend.
Why should I join?
Join us if you want to improve the way you handle conflict, awkwardness, setting limits; if you want to stop avoiding important conversations until it's too late. Finally, if you don't want to do it alone, but get to know others with the same outlook, goals and values.
Not least, join us if you want to get to know and support the 101s project; this is a great way to do it!
Here's what others said about our past book clubs:
- Kirsten: “A very safe and caring space was created for people to share and discuss the book, Disrupting the Bystander. I almost feel I learned more from our discussions than from the book itself. Mihai and others in the group put a lot of effort in, meaning that we now have summary notes on the book, notes on the meeting ourself, audio recordings of the book and extra related resources.”
- Faust: “Taking part in this group was much better than reading the book on my own. People shared stories related to the content of the book, and this gave everyone a better understanding of the issues involved. Also, all sessions were managed with great attention to privacy and concern, which is important given the sensitive contents of the topics we were discussing.”
- Diana: “It's the best way to feel part of a community and not feel alone, confront opinions and see different point of views. It gives the chance to meet amazing people, make new friends. And it's a way to get to know other people's experiences and feel less like an alien. Personally, a way to push me to become more responsible.”
Let’s get the ball rolling!
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